Autistic Burnout
Autistic Burnout: Experiences, Coping Strategies and Support
Autistic Burnout: Experiences, Coping Strategies and Support
DESCRIPTION: Autistic burnout manifests itself through exhaustion, a loss of ability and withdrawal. What those affected report, what helps with recovery, and what family members can do.
When skills that were once there disappear
Autistic burnout means endless exhaustion, lost abilities and an infinitely heightened sensitivity to stimuli that has built up over months or years. The condition has had a name since the autistic community identified it, and it has been the subject of scientific research since 2020.
What it’s all about:
· what autistic burnout looks like from the inside,
· what has helped those affected to recover, and
· how loved ones can help.
What autistic burnout is
The first scientific definition comes from a research team led by Dora Raymaker, which collaborated with autistic self-advocates in 2020. It describes a condition arising from chronic life stress and a mismatch between expectations and abilities, without sufficient support. Characteristic features include prolonged exhaustion, impaired functioning and reduced tolerance to stimuli.
A second definition was proposed in 2021 by an Australian group led by Julianne Higgins, who, over several rounds of consultation, worked with 23 autistic adults with personal experience of burnout to arrive at a joint version. It identifies two essential criteria: significant mental and physical exhaustion, and social withdrawal. Both definitions are based on small-scale studies, and an independent working group has yet to review either. Autistic burnout is not listed as a separate diagnosis in either the ICD-11 or the DSM-5-TR.
The exhaustion that sleep cannot cure
Those affected report fatigue that does not go away with rest. A free weekend makes no difference; two weeks’ holiday makes no difference. In Raymaker’s interviews, the same phrase crops up time and again: ‘Others ask what you’re tired from, because from their point of view nothing strenuous has taken place.
For autistic adults, ordinary everyday life is exhausting. The background noise in an open-plan office, switching between tasks, deciphering subtle cues, adjusting facial expressions and maintaining eye contact. This effort is invisible to outsiders, and that is precisely why others dismiss their exhaustion as exaggerated.
The loss of skills
The most reliable sign of autistic burnout is the loss of skills that were previously taken for granted. Mood is a less reliable indicator. Speaking becomes laborious or ceases altogether at times. Cooking, showering and doing the washing become tasks that take a whole day. Planning and decision-making no longer work.
In the largest study to date on this topic – a survey of 141 autistic adults with an independent clinical diagnosis (Arnold et al. 2023) – exhaustion, social withdrawal, a decline in work capacity and the feeling of being overwhelmed by one’s surroundings were among the most strongly confirmed characteristics. Notably, the least frequently reported were aggression and an increase in meltdowns. If these are the predominant symptoms, they argue against a diagnosis of burnout and point to another cause.
Many of those affected cite their greatest fear at this point. It concerns the uncertainty as to whether the lost abilities will return.
Withdrawal extends even to one’s own home.
In the same survey, withdrawal from people within one’s own household was among the most strongly confirmed characteristics. Withdrawal is therefore a core characteristic of the condition and not a side effect.
Relatives find this the most alarming aspect precisely. They interpret it as a breakdown in relationships or as a sign of depression. Neither is accurate. Social interaction consumes energy that is lacking during burnout, and withdrawal is an attempt to stop that energy drain.
Why the screen, of all things?
Digital interactions precisely alleviate the strain that caused the burnout. No reading facial expressions, no real-time prosody, no eye contact; turn-taking is explicit and rule-based; one can opt out at any time without paying a social price; the stimulus environment is adjustable, unlike a classroom; written communication allows time to process; and competence becomes apparent without having to be socially negotiated. This is stimulus shielding with residual social interaction. For many, these online interactions are not substitute relationships, but the only ones they can still manage.
Nevertheless, the risk is real.
Systematic reviews show that autistic children, adolescents and adults are more likely to develop problematic gaming behaviour than non-autistic individuals. The mechanisms are plausible: difficulty in disengaging, weaknesses in emotional regulation, specialised interests that become embedded in gaming, and simply the absence of competing reinforcers. A study of adult autistic gamers explicitly links escapist motivation to autistic burnout. So the father is not wrong; he has got the direction of the arrow the wrong way round.
The difference does not lie in the number of hours.
Sixteen hours, in and of themselves, mean almost nothing. What’s more telling is:
· Does the battery recharge after a session, or does it merely numb the mind whilst the battery is drained?
· Does psychological distress accompany a loss of control: failed attempts to stop that cause torment, or is the retreat self-aligned and a conscious choice?
· Does gaming supplant something the person affected wants and is capable of doing? In a burnout situation, this criterion is of limited use, precisely because nothing else is possible at that moment.
· Structured play with goals, perseverance and fellow players, or endless aimless activity? The latter is closer to a shutdown than to a special interest.
One detail from the literature that directly addresses parental conflicts: autistic adolescents typically conceal their gaming sessions because they fear restrictions. Parental restrictions thus generate precisely the secrecy that is subsequently interpreted as a sign of addiction.
Why I personally would be cautious about the diagnosis of ‘gaming disorder’ in this context.
Among other things, the ICD-11 requires that the functional impairment caused by gaming displaces other activities and lasts for at least twelve months. Where there is already a severe impairment due to burnout, this classification cannot be made unequivocally. Above all, however: a withdrawal of the device, as prescribed in cases of ‘computer addiction’, removes the last remaining regulatory mechanisms and the last remaining social access. Structurally: pressure on a system with no reserves.
For parents, the following questions are key: Does the person affected play with others or alone? How do they compare after two hours with how they were before? Can they take a break for something they want to do themselves? What happens on days when there are other demands on them?
But once again: research into autistic burnout is in its infancy, predominantly qualitative and community-based, lacking diagnostic criteria and focusing almost exclusively on adults. Studies on gaming and autism are largely snapshots. The direction of the causal relationship remains unclear in these studies as well.
Double masking and shame
A 2026 study by Clarey and colleagues identified a pattern that many affected individuals recognise immediately: double masking. This refers to the simultaneous concealment of two things: autistic traits and the burnout itself. When asked how they are feeling, the reply is: ‘Everything’s OK’.
This works in the short term. At the same time, it prevents support from being organised, thereby prolonging the condition. The study comprises eleven interviews and has not yet been replicated, so this link must be regarded as preliminary.
Added to this is the shame. The loss of ability is interpreted as a personal failure. The statement ‘I can’t do that right now’ becomes ‘I am someone who can’t do that’. This interpretation reinforces withdrawal, which reduces the likelihood that someone will ask for help.
Why masking alone is not a su e explanation
In public discourse, masking is regarded as the cause of autistic burnout. However, in the survey by Arnold and colleagues, the accumulation of stressors over a prolonged period was confirmed as the strongest trigger, well ahead of the items relating to the concealment of autistic traits. The authors themselves write that general life stress is a more frequent and more significant cause.
The correlations between masking and psychological distress are in the moderate range across several independent samples, with correlations ranging from 0.30 to 0.36. In 2025, a Dutch research group led by Wikke van der Putten became the only group to date to examine two measurement points approximately two years apart. They found no evidence that masking precedes the development of psychological distress. They conclude that the direction of the relationship remains unclear.
Masking is therefore one of several triggers, and the assumption of a single cause is not currently supported.
The distinction from depression and the debate over activation
Autistic burnout and depression overlap significantly. When asked whether autistic burnout provided a better explanation for an earlier diagnosis, 61 per cent of the 96 respondents in the 2023 survey answered ‘yes’, most frequently in relation to depression. A validation study from 2026 shows that a burnout questionnaire currently identifies those affected significantly better than the PHQ-9 depression questionnaire. By contrast, autistic burnout could not be distinguished from general exhaustion using a general exhaustion questionnaire.
Of practical importance is a warning that recurs in several studies. Behavioural activation – that is, the gradual resumption of activities – is considered an effective treatment for depression. In the case of autistic burnout, several authors suspect that behavioural activation may worsen the condition, as withdrawal and a reduction in demands are the actual path to recovery. This hypothesis has not yet been tested in any study. Nevertheless, it is a good reason to discuss the treatment direction explicitly. If depression is present at the same time, it should be treated.
How long autistic burnout lasts
There is no definitive answer to this question, and that in itself is a form of information. In the only survey on duration, responses ranged from a few hours to more than a year, with no discernible pattern. A third of respondents stated that their longest episode had lasted a year or longer. Some experience short, recurring phases, whilst others experience a long, continuous state.
The commonly cited figure of at least three months stems from the 2020 definition and is explicitly criticised as unfounded in the follow-up study. For those affected, this means that a long duration says nothing about the outlook. Planning is based on the next period of relief, not on an end date.
The way out begins with the burden of demands.
Everything we know about recovery comes from reports by those affected about what has helped them. To date, no study has tested a specific treatment. These reports are consistent enough across several studies to allow recommendations to be drawn from them.
The first step is to lower expectations. This involves drawing up a comprehensive list of expectations – including unspoken ones – and those one places on oneself. These are then sorted: what must remain, what can be put on hold for six months, and what is an external expectation that one has internalised? Sick leave, reduced working hours, a leave of absence from studies and rehabilitation are among the measures that may be considered.
The second step is to allow yourself to withdraw. In the 2023 survey, withdrawing from social situations was the most widely endorsed recovery strategy, followed by making time for one’s own interests and ignoring external demands. Anyone who resists withdrawal is resisting recovery.
The third step concerns stimulus density. A quiet, predictable environment with few visitors and few changes to one’s schedule helps. Where taking time out is not possible, short, regular breaks from stimuli spread throughout the day are effective: a darkened room, ear protectors, or a period when one is not spoken to.
The fourth step concerns the return to social contexts. The interviews conducted by Clarey and colleagues have described an intermediate stage for this which is highly practical in everyday life. Those affected spend time in the presence of others without speaking to them. One participant described it as wanting to sit in the park, not with people, but simply near them. Another participant puts on headphones and remains in the same room as her family.
This intermediate stage separates presence from demands. It can be maintained for weeks before the next step is required, and it keeps connections open that would otherwise be severed.
What can relatives do?
As for the role of family members, there has not yet been a single study that has examined their behaviour as a risk or protective factor. What is available are accounts from those affected about what helped them and what harmed them, and these are clear enough.
What has been harmful is the dismissal of their own account of events. Phrases such as ‘That’s how it is for lots of people’ end the search for help. In the studies, this point is most strongly confirmed in relation to the person’s social environment. Environments in which someone was allowed to remain exactly as they were, without anything needing to be ‘fixed’, proved helpful.
In practical terms, this means taking on tasks, not decisions, and relieving the burden of shopping, dealing with official correspondence, and managing appointments. Taking away the power to make decisions about one’s own life has the opposite effect, as having little control over one’s own life is one of the most strongly confirmed triggers.
On how to approach the person: Questions about their current state create pressure and, when combined with ‘double masking’, lead to a standard response. Offers that do not require a reply are more effective. “I’ll be in the park on Sunday; you’re welcome to join me, but it’s fine if you don’t,” requires no reply yet still maintains the connection.
Suicidal ideation, which is underestimated by those around them
Around half of the respondents in the 2023 survey agreed that suicidal thoughts were a consequence of their burnout. A 2023 meta-analysis of 36 studies and more than 48,000 autistic participants found a rate of 34.2 per cent for suicidal thoughts, with a very wide variation between the studies.
Two figures are important for family members. The first comes from the same meta-analysis: when based on self-reports, the figure stands at 36.7 per cent, whilst when based on reports from family members, it is 19.5 per cent. External assessments are systematically too low, and the absence of signs is therefore not a cause for reassurance. The second figure comes from a Danish cohort study involving 6.5 million people: in cases of an autism diagnosis without any further psychiatric diagnosis, the rate of suicide attempts was not significantly elevated; in cases with additional psychiatric diagnoses, however, it was many times higher. The key issue is therefore the untreated co-morbidity.
Anyone contemplating suicide can contact the telephone counselling service round the clock on 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222; in Austria on 142; and in Switzerland on 143. In an emergency, dial 112.
When recovery remains incomplete
Some of those affected do not regain their previous level of ability and energy. In the 2023 survey, the statement that the previous level had not been regained was clearly confirmed on average. The qualitative interviews also describe how lost skills sometimes do not return to their original level.
This information is uncomfortable, yet useful. Those who take full recovery as the benchmark interpret its absence as a personal failure. The task thus shifts from restoring one’s old life to tailoring one’s life to one’s remaining strength. This is the prerequisite for ensuring that the remaining aspirations can be fulfilled.
Key points in brief
• Autistic burnout manifests as exhaustion that is not alleviated by rest, the loss of previously existing abilities, and increased sensitivity to stimuli.
• This withdrawal extends into one’s own home. It is a core characteristic, not a decision, to turn one’s back on one’s family.
• Aggression and frequent meltdowns are not part of the typical picture and suggest a different cause.
• Masking is one trigger amongst many. The accumulation of stress over the years has a greater impact, and there is no evidence of a cause-and-effect relationship with masking.
• The duration cannot be predicted. Reports range from hours to over a year.
• The way out begins with lowering expectations, followed by allowing withdrawal and reducing stimuli.
• For a return to normality, simply being present without expecting conversation is appropriate.
• Relatives can best provide support by taking on tasks and offering help without expecting a response. Dismissing the person’s account is the most common barrier to seeking help.
• Those on the outside systematically underestimate suicidal thoughts. The starting point is the treatment of co-occurring mental health conditions.
• For some people, recovery remains incomplete. In such cases, it is a matter of adapting one’s life to one’s existing strength.
Sources
Raymaker, D. M. et al. (2020). Having All of Your Internal Resources Exhausted Beyond Measure and Being Left with No Clean-Up Crew: Defining Autistic Burnout. Autism in Adulthood, 2(2), 132–143. https://doi.org/10.1089/aut.2019.0079
Higgins, J. M. et al. (2021). Defining autistic burnout through experts by lived experience. Autism, 25(8), 2356–2369. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613211019858
Arnold, S. R. C. et al. (2023). Confirming the nature of autistic burnout. Autism, 27(7), 1906–1918. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613221147410
Ali, D. et al. (2025). Burnout as experienced by autistic people: A systematic review. Clinical Psychology Review, 122, 102669. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2025.102669
Clarey, M. M. et al. (2026). Beyond Exhaustion: Shame, Identity Disruption, and Functional Collapse in Autistic Burnout. Autism. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613261444797
Nickel, K. et al. (2026). Measuring autistic burnout: A psychometric validation of the AASPIRE Autistic Burnout Measure. Autism. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613251355255
van der Putten, W. J. et al. (2025). Camouflaging in autism: A cause or a consequence of mental health difficulties? Autism, 29(10), 2604–2617. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613251347104
Newell, V. et al. (2023). A systematic review and meta-analysis of suicidality in autistic and possibly autistic people. Molecular Autism, 14, 12. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13229-023-00544-7
Kõlves, K. et al. (2021). Assessment of suicidal behaviours among individuals with autism spectrum disorder in Denmark. JAMA Network Open, 4(1), e2033565. https://doi.org/10.1001/jamanetworkopen.2020.33565
Pyszkowska, A., Gąsior, T., Stefanek, F. & Więzik, B. (2023). Determinants of escapism in adult video gamers with autism spectrum conditions: The role of affect, autistic burnout, and gaming motivation. Computers in Human Behaviour, 141, 107618. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chb.2022.107618
Craig, F., Tenuta, F., De Giacomo, A., Trabacca, A. & Costabile, A. (2021). A systematic review of problematic video-game use in people with autism spectrum disorders. Research in Autism Spectrum Disorders, 82, 101726. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.rasd.2021.101726
Tateno, M. et al. (2025). Depression, Gaming Disorder, and Internet Addiction in Adolescents with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Behavioural Sciences, 15(4), 423. https://doi.org/10.3390/bs15040423
World Health Organisation (2025). 6C51 Gaming disorder. ICD-11 for Mortality and Morbidity Statistics, Version 2025-01. https://icd.who.int/browse/2025-01/mms/en#1448597234
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DESCRIPTION: Autistic burnout manifests itself through exhaustion, a loss of ability and withdrawal. What those affected report, what helps with recovery, and what family members can do.
When skills that were once there disappear
Autistic burnout means endless exhaustion, lost abilities and an infinitely heightened sensitivity to stimuli that has built up over months or years. The condition has had a name since the autistic community identified it, and it has been the subject of scientific research since 2020.
What it’s all about:
· what autistic burnout looks like from the inside,
· what has helped those affected to recover, and
· how loved ones can help.
What autistic burnout is
The first scientific definition comes from a research team led by Dora Raymaker, which collaborated with autistic self-advocates in 2020. It describes a condition arising from chronic life stress and a mismatch between expectations and abilities, without sufficient support. Characteristic features include prolonged exhaustion, impaired functioning and reduced tolerance to stimuli.
A second definition was proposed in 2021 by an Australian group led by Julianne Higgins, who, over several rounds of consultation, worked with 23 autistic adults with personal experience of burnout to arrive at a joint version. It identifies two essential criteria: significant mental and physical exhaustion, and social withdrawal. Both definitions are based on small-scale studies, and an independent working group has yet to review either. Autistic burnout is not listed as a separate diagnosis in either the ICD-11 or the DSM-5-TR.
The exhaustion that sleep cannot cure
Those affected report fatigue that does not go away with rest. A free weekend makes no difference; two weeks’ holiday makes no difference. In Raymaker’s interviews, the same phrase crops up time and again: ‘Others ask what you’re tired from, because from their point of view nothing strenuous has taken place.
For autistic adults, ordinary everyday life is exhausting. The background noise in an open-plan office, switching between tasks, deciphering subtle cues, adjusting facial expressions and maintaining eye contact. This effort is invisible to outsiders, and that is precisely why others dismiss their exhaustion as exaggerated.
The loss of skills
The most reliable sign of autistic burnout is the loss of skills that were previously taken for granted. Mood is a less reliable indicator. Speaking becomes laborious or ceases altogether at times. Cooking, showering and doing the washing become tasks that take a whole day. Planning and decision-making no longer work.
In the largest study to date on this topic – a survey of 141 autistic adults with an independent clinical diagnosis (Arnold et al. 2023) – exhaustion, social withdrawal, a decline in work capacity and the feeling of being overwhelmed by one’s surroundings were among the most strongly confirmed characteristics. Notably, the least frequently reported were aggression and an increase in meltdowns. If these are the predominant symptoms, they argue against a diagnosis of burnout and point to another cause.
Many of those affected cite their greatest fear at this point. It concerns the uncertainty as to whether the lost abilities will return.
Withdrawal extends even to one’s own home.
In the same survey, withdrawal from people within one’s own household was among the most strongly confirmed characteristics. Withdrawal is therefore a core characteristic of the condition and not a side effect.
Relatives find this the most alarming aspect precisely. They interpret it as a breakdown in relationships or as a sign of depression. Neither is accurate. Social interaction consumes energy that is lacking during burnout, and withdrawal is an attempt to stop that energy drain.
Why the screen, of all things?
Digital interactions precisely alleviate the strain that caused the burnout. No reading facial expressions, no real-time prosody, no eye contact; turn-taking is explicit and rule-based; one can opt out at any time without paying a social price; the stimulus environment is adjustable, unlike a classroom; written communication allows time to process; and competence becomes apparent without having to be socially negotiated. This is stimulus shielding with residual social interaction. For many, these online interactions are not substitute relationships, but the only ones they can still manage.
Nevertheless, the risk is real.
Systematic reviews show that autistic children, adolescents and adults are more likely to develop problematic gaming behaviour than non-autistic individuals. The mechanisms are plausible: difficulty in disengaging, weaknesses in emotional regulation, specialised interests that become embedded in gaming, and simply the absence of competing reinforcers. A study of adult autistic gamers explicitly links escapist motivation to autistic burnout. So the father is not wrong; he has got the direction of the arrow the wrong way round.
The difference does not lie in the number of hours.
Sixteen hours, in and of themselves, mean almost nothing. What’s more telling is:
· Does the battery recharge after a session, or does it merely numb the mind whilst the battery is drained?
· Does psychological distress accompany a loss of control: failed attempts to stop that cause torment, or is the retreat self-aligned and a conscious choice?
· Does gaming supplant something the person affected wants and is capable of doing? In a burnout situation, this criterion is of limited use, precisely because nothing else is possible at that moment.
· Structured play with goals, perseverance and fellow players, or endless aimless activity? The latter is closer to a shutdown than to a special interest.
One detail from the literature that directly addresses parental conflicts: autistic adolescents typically conceal their gaming sessions because they fear restrictions. Parental restrictions thus generate precisely the secrecy that is subsequently interpreted as a sign of addiction.
Why I personally would be cautious about the diagnosis of ‘gaming disorder’ in this context.
Among other things, the ICD-11 requires that the functional impairment caused by gaming displaces other activities and lasts for at least twelve months. Where there is already a severe impairment due to burnout, this classification cannot be made unequivocally. Above all, however: a withdrawal of the device, as prescribed in cases of ‘computer addiction’, removes the last remaining regulatory mechanisms and the last remaining social access. Structurally: pressure on a system with no reserves.
For parents, the following questions are key: Does the person affected play with others or alone? How do they compare after two hours with how they were before? Can they take a break for something they want to do themselves? What happens on days when there are other demands on them?
But once again: research into autistic burnout is in its infancy, predominantly qualitative and community-based, lacking diagnostic criteria and focusing almost exclusively on adults. Studies on gaming and autism are largely snapshots. The direction of the causal relationship remains unclear in these studies as well.
Double masking and shame
A 2026 study by Clarey and colleagues identified a pattern that many affected individuals recognise immediately: double masking. This refers to the simultaneous concealment of two things: autistic traits and the burnout itself. When asked how they are feeling, the reply is: ‘Everything’s OK’.
This works in the short term. At the same time, it prevents support from being organised, thereby prolonging the condition. The study comprises eleven interviews and has not yet been replicated, so this link must be regarded as preliminary.
Added to this is the shame. The loss of ability is interpreted as a personal failure. The statement ‘I can’t do that right now’ becomes ‘I am someone who can’t do that’. This interpretation reinforces withdrawal, which reduces the likelihood that someone will ask for help.
Why masking alone is not a su e explanation
In public discourse, masking is regarded as the cause of autistic burnout. However, in the survey by Arnold and colleagues, the accumulation of stressors over a prolonged period was confirmed as the strongest trigger, well ahead of the items relating to the concealment of autistic traits. The authors themselves write that general life stress is a more frequent and more significant cause.
The correlations between masking and psychological distress are in the moderate range across several independent samples, with correlations ranging from 0.30 to 0.36. In 2025, a Dutch research group led by Wikke van der Putten became the only group to date to examine two measurement points approximately two years apart. They found no evidence that masking precedes the development of psychological distress. They conclude that the direction of the relationship remains unclear.
Masking is therefore one of several triggers, and the assumption of a single cause is not currently supported.
The distinction from depression and the debate over activation
Autistic burnout and depression overlap significantly. When asked whether autistic burnout provided a better explanation for an earlier diagnosis, 61 per cent of the 96 respondents in the 2023 survey answered ‘yes’, most frequently in relation to depression. A validation study from 2026 shows that a burnout questionnaire currently identifies those affected significantly better than the PHQ-9 depression questionnaire. By contrast, autistic burnout could not be distinguished from general exhaustion using a general exhaustion questionnaire.
Of practical importance is a warning that recurs in several studies. Behavioural activation – that is, the gradual resumption of activities – is considered an effective treatment for depression. In the case of autistic burnout, several authors suspect that behavioural activation may worsen the condition, as withdrawal and a reduction in demands are the actual path to recovery. This hypothesis has not yet been tested in any study. Nevertheless, it is a good reason to discuss the treatment direction explicitly. If depression is present at the same time, it should be treated.
How long autistic burnout lasts
There is no definitive answer to this question, and that in itself is a form of information. In the only survey on duration, responses ranged from a few hours to more than a year, with no discernible pattern. A third of respondents stated that their longest episode had lasted a year or longer. Some experience short, recurring phases, whilst others experience a long, continuous state.
The commonly cited figure of at least three months stems from the 2020 definition and is explicitly criticised as unfounded in the follow-up study. For those affected, this means that a long duration says nothing about the outlook. Planning is based on the next period of relief, not on an end date.
The way out begins with the burden of demands.
Everything we know about recovery comes from reports by those affected about what has helped them. To date, no study has tested a specific treatment. These reports are consistent enough across several studies to allow recommendations to be drawn from them.
The first step is to lower expectations. This involves drawing up a comprehensive list of expectations – including unspoken ones – and those one places on oneself. These are then sorted: what must remain, what can be put on hold for six months, and what is an external expectation that one has internalised? Sick leave, reduced working hours, a leave of absence from studies and rehabilitation are among the measures that may be considered.
The second step is to allow yourself to withdraw. In the 2023 survey, withdrawing from social situations was the most widely endorsed recovery strategy, followed by making time for one’s own interests and ignoring external demands. Anyone who resists withdrawal is resisting recovery.
The third step concerns stimulus density. A quiet, predictable environment with few visitors and few changes to one’s schedule helps. Where taking time out is not possible, short, regular breaks from stimuli spread throughout the day are effective: a darkened room, ear protectors, or a period when one is not spoken to.
The fourth step concerns the return to social contexts. The interviews conducted by Clarey and colleagues have described an intermediate stage for this which is highly practical in everyday life. Those affected spend time in the presence of others without speaking to them. One participant described it as wanting to sit in the park, not with people, but simply near them. Another participant puts on headphones and remains in the same room as her family.
This intermediate stage separates presence from demands. It can be maintained for weeks before the next step is required, and it keeps connections open that would otherwise be severed.
What can relatives do?
As for the role of family members, there has not yet been a single study that has examined their behaviour as a risk or protective factor. What is available are accounts from those affected about what helped them and what harmed them, and these are clear enough.
What has been harmful is the dismissal of their own account of events. Phrases such as ‘That’s how it is for lots of people’ end the search for help. In the studies, this point is most strongly confirmed in relation to the person’s social environment. Environments in which someone was allowed to remain exactly as they were, without anything needing to be ‘fixed’, proved helpful.
In practical terms, this means taking on tasks, not decisions, and relieving the burden of shopping, dealing with official correspondence, and managing appointments. Taking away the power to make decisions about one’s own life has the opposite effect, as having little control over one’s own life is one of the most strongly confirmed triggers.
On how to approach the person: Questions about their current state create pressure and, when combined with ‘double masking’, lead to a standard response. Offers that do not require a reply are more effective. “I’ll be in the park on Sunday; you’re welcome to join me, but it’s fine if you don’t,” requires no reply yet still maintains the connection.
Suicidal ideation, which is underestimated by those around them
Around half of the respondents in the 2023 survey agreed that suicidal thoughts were a consequence of their burnout. A 2023 meta-analysis of 36 studies and more than 48,000 autistic participants found a rate of 34.2 per cent for suicidal thoughts, with a very wide variation between the studies.
Two figures are important for family members. The first comes from the same meta-analysis: when based on self-reports, the figure stands at 36.7 per cent, whilst when based on reports from family members, it is 19.5 per cent. External assessments are systematically too low, and the absence of signs is therefore not a cause for reassurance. The second figure comes from a Danish cohort study involving 6.5 million people: in cases of an autism diagnosis without any further psychiatric diagnosis, the rate of suicide attempts was not significantly elevated; in cases with additional psychiatric diagnoses, however, it was many times higher. The key issue is therefore the untreated co-morbidity.
Anyone contemplating suicide can contact the telephone counselling service round the clock on 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222; in Austria on 142; and in Switzerland on 143. In an emergency, dial 112.
When recovery remains incomplete
Some of those affected do not regain their previous level of ability and energy. In the 2023 survey, the statement that the previous level had not been regained was clearly confirmed on average. The qualitative interviews also describe how lost skills sometimes do not return to their original level.
This information is uncomfortable, yet useful. Those who take full recovery as the benchmark interpret its absence as a personal failure. The task thus shifts from restoring one’s old life to tailoring one’s life to one’s remaining strength. This is the prerequisite for ensuring that the remaining aspirations can be fulfilled.
Key points in brief
• Autistic burnout manifests as exhaustion that is not alleviated by rest, the loss of previously existing abilities, and increased sensitivity to stimuli.
• This withdrawal extends into one’s own home. It is a core characteristic, not a decision, to turn one’s back on one’s family.
• Aggression and frequent meltdowns are not part of the typical picture and suggest a different cause.
• Masking is one trigger amongst many. The accumulation of stress over the years has a greater impact, and there is no evidence of a cause-and-effect relationship with masking.
• The duration cannot be predicted. Reports range from hours to over a year.
• The way out begins with lowering expectations, followed by allowing withdrawal and reducing stimuli.
• For a return to normality, simply being present without expecting conversation is appropriate.
• Relatives can best provide support by taking on tasks and offering help without expecting a response. Dismissing the person’s account is the most common barrier to seeking help.
• Those on the outside systematically underestimate suicidal thoughts. The starting point is the treatment of co-occurring mental health conditions.
• For some people, recovery remains incomplete. In such cases, it is a matter of adapting one’s life to one’s existing strength.
Sources
Raymaker, D. M. et al. (2020). Having All of Your Internal Resources Exhausted Beyond Measure and Being Left with No Clean-Up Crew: Defining Autistic Burnout. Autism in Adulthood, 2(2), 132–143. https://doi.org/10.1089/aut.2019.0079
Higgins, J. M. et al. (2021). Defining autistic burnout through experts by lived experience. Autism, 25(8), 2356–2369. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613211019858
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