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High sensitivity means intensive perception and exhaustion in everyday life. The world of highly sensitive people, their challenges and strategies - and a free self-test.

Why the Highly Sensitive Don't Like Visitors - Social Exhaustion in Highly Sensitive People Re-read with Edgar Cayce

Introduction: a mood between guilt and self-acceptance

Perhaps you are familiar with this: even the announcement that visitors are coming triggers inner tension. You wonder whether the flat is tidy enough, how long the visit will last - and at the same time you feel a slight aversion. Your guilty conscience immediately kicks in: "Am I being unfriendly?" "Am I being antisocial?"

Edgar Cayce turned this perspective around. He explained that the desire to withdraw is not a social weakness, but a spiritual gift. Those who avoid visitors are an "energy guardian soul" - guardians of a special energy.

This interpretation seems relieving. But how viable is it? And what can be explained psychologically?

What it's all about:

·         An overview of Edgar Cayce's ideas,

·         Cayce's historical background and the connection to highly sensitive sensibility.

·         provide an insight into the complex topic of high sensitivity,

·         the characteristics, challenges and strengths associated with this personality trait.

We will shed light on how highly sensitive people experience the world and how this sensitivity can be used constructively in everyday life, including in social situations. A scientifically based reassessment in the light of high sensitivity shows that an aversion to visitors is neither a fault nor a flaw, but an expression of legitimate needs.

The starting point: Visitor aversion as a spiritual gift

Edgar Cayce interpreted the phenomenon of avoiding visitors not as a deficiency, but as an expression of a special spiritual function. While most cultures regard sociability as the norm, he understood withdrawal and reluctance to visit as a spiritual quality: those who reject visitors fulfil a task - they maintain inner and outer balance.

Three types of souls

Following Cayce, contemporary spirituality distinguishes between three types of soul in terms of how they deal with energy:

Energy vampires - people who unconsciously draw energy from others in encounters. They leave the meeting energised, while the other person is left exhausted.

Energy neutrals - they experience social situations without any noticeable change. They neither gain nor lose energy significantly.

Energy Guardians - they protect spaces and energies because their nervous system is particularly sensitive. For them, visiting means interfering with their inner balance.

The message is directed against the mainstream: It is not the need to withdraw that is deficient, but the disregard for this inner boundary, which is crucial for many people with high sensitivity.

Practical advice for "energy guardians"

To prevent this overload, Cayce is said to have recommended three simple but effective practices.

1.       Preparing the space - creating a kind of protective layer through prayer, meditation or visualisation.

2.       Clear time limits - meetings should be limited in duration from the outset in order to avoid excessive demands.

3.       Purification rituals - after the visit, the atmosphere is restored through incense, sound or silent contemplation.

The theory, which is based on Cayes, thus interprets unwillingness to visit not as weakness, but as a conscious act of self-awareness. Withdrawal becomes a spiritual responsibility.

Edgar Cayce in a historical context

Who was Edgar Cayce

Edgar Cayce (1877-1945) is considered one of the most influential mystics of the 20th century. In trance states, he gave over 14,000 readings on health, reincarnation, spiritual development and cosmic connections. He became known as the "Sleeping Prophet". His basic conviction: Body, mind and spirit form an inseparable unit and healing only happens through their integration.

Authentic teachings

His teachings are based on the following concepts:

·         Reincarnation - the soul grows over many lives.

·         Aura - Cayce spoke of emanations that reflect the state of the soul.

·         Meditation and prayer - daily practice as the foundation of spiritual growth.

·         Spiritual mission - every soul comes to earth with a task.

·         Modern additions

The typology of vampires, neutrals and guardians are not literal quotations from his trance readings, but later interpretations and systematisations that have been adapted to today's esoteric discourses. However, they convey Cayce's core message: that spiritual sensitivity is not only individual, but cosmically significant.

The "oric field" - the electromagnetic energy field that surrounds people and is said to contain information about thoughts, feelings and memories - is also a modern addition. If someone then enters a room, the fields overlap. For sensitive people, this acts like an external energy that disturbs their mental balance.

High sensitivity: perception, exhaustion and everyday life

But people experience the world in this way, which is characterised by deep empathy and intensive perception. This can be an indication of high sensitivity, a personality trait that affects around 15 to 20 per cent of all people.

What does "highly sensitive" mean?

High sensitivity, also known as "Sensory Processing Sensitivity", is not a mental disorder, but a personality trait characterised by an increased sensitivity to stimuli. Elaine Aron, a pioneer in this field, was instrumental in coining this concept. Highly sensitive people perceive external stimuli more intensely and process them more deeply than others. This means that sounds, odours, moods and social interactions are perceived more strongly and have a greater effect on the nervous system. This pronounced sensitivity can be both a strength and a challenge.

Definition and characteristics of high sensitivity

The definition of high sensitivity encompasses the more intense perception and deeper processing of stimuli. Highly sensitive people perceive subtle details in their environment that others may miss. They are very empathic and intuitively sense the moods of other people. Many highly sensitive people are also very creative and have a rich inner world. Typical characteristics include a high sensitivity to noise, light and odours, rapid overstimulation in social situations and a strong need for retreat and relaxation. However, the fact that highly sensitive people experience the world differently does not mean that they are deficient.

Frequency of high sensitivity

Around 15 to 20 per cent of all people are highly sensitive. This figure indicates that high sensitivity is not a rare phenomenon, but a widespread personality trait. emphasise that high sensitivity occurs in all cultures and genders. This realisation helps to promote understanding and acceptance of highly sensitive people in society. Many highly sensitive people feel misunderstood or are perceived as "different". it is therefore crucial to raise awareness of high sensitivity and create an inclusive environment.

Recognising high sensitivity: Questionnaire and signs

Elaine Aron has developed a questionnaire that serves as a tool to assess one's own sensitivity. This questionnaire covers various aspects of high sensitivity, such as sensitivity to sensory stimuli, tendency to overstimulation and emotional depth. Feel free to use the self-test at the end of this post to determine whether you or someone you know is highly sensitive. Please note, however, that a questionnaire alone does not provide a diagnosis.

For a well-founded assessment, individual experiences and behavioural patterns must be taken into account. Many people recognise themselves in the descriptions of highly sensitive people without actually being highly sensitive themselves.

The psychology of highly sensitive people

Sensory overload and its effects

Many highly sensitive people experience sensory overload as one of the biggest challenges in everyday life. The intense perception of external stimuli leads to the nervous system being overloaded more quickly. A highly sensitive person quickly feels exhausted in noisy or confusing environments, as the stimuli are perceived more intensely and in greater numbers. This constant processing of stimuli can lead to stress, anxiety and general exhaustion, which significantly impairs quality of life. It is therefore important to develop strategies to reduce stimuli and protect against sensory overload.

Mood swings in highly sensitive people

The emotional depth and sensitivity of highly sensitive people can also lead to stronger mood swings. As highly sensitive people perceive other people's moods more intensely and are more susceptible to external influences, their emotions fluctuate faster and more strongly. Positive experiences are savoured more intensely, while negative events have a more profound impact. Highly sensitive people need to become aware of this tendency and develop strategies to regulate their emotions in order to maintain a stable emotional balance. Many highly sensitive people therefore seek to socialise in groups.

Neurobiological mechanisms of sensitivity

The neurobiological mechanisms underlying high sensitivity are not yet fully understood, but there are indications that certain areas of the brain function differently in highly sensitive people. Studies suggest that the brains of highly sensitive people show increased activity in the areas responsible for empathy, stimulus processing and emotional response. This could explain why highly sensitive people perceive stimuli more intensely and process them more deeply. Genetic factors also play a role in the expression of high sensitivity as a personality trait, which illustrates the complex interrelationships.

Exhaustion due to social interactions

Causes of exhaustion in highly sensitive people

Social interactions are particularly exhausting for highly sensitive people. The constant processing of information, the subtle signals and the need to adapt to social norms overload and exhaust the nervous system. Many highly sensitive people report a strong need to withdraw and relax after social events in order to replenish their energy reserves. The empathy that highly sensitive people feel intensifies this effect, as interaction with others usually requires a great deal of attention.

The role of social energy exchange

Social "energy exchange" plays an important role in the exhaustion of highly sensitive people. In social situations, there is a constant exchange of energy in which moods, emotions and information are transmitted. Highly sensitive people perceive these energies more intensely and feel overwhelmed more quickly as a result. Some highly sensitive people also report that they feel "drained" by certain people or environments, while others give them energy. It is important to be aware of this dynamic and develop strategies to protect yourself from negative energy flows. Many highly sensitive people perceive social interactions as more stressful.

Practical tips for dealing with exhaustion

There are various practical tips for highly sensitive people on how to deal with the exhaustion caused by social interactions. These include setting boundaries, planning sufficient rest periods after social events and consciously choosing social contacts. Relaxation techniques such as meditation, mindfulness or progressive muscle relaxation calm the nervous system and reduce stress.

Mindfulness and self-care

Techniques to promote mindfulness

Mindfulness is a key element in dealing with high sensitivity. It reduces sensory overload and creates a deeper understanding of one's own needs. Techniques such as meditation, breathing exercises and mindful walking allow highly sensitive people to stay in the present moment and be less overwhelmed by external stimuli. The regular practice of mindfulness stabilises emotional stability. By consciously directing their attention, highly sensitive people utilise their sensitivity as a strength.

A safe space for highly sensitive people

A 'safe space' is a place where highly sensitive people feel safe, secure and protected. This space can be a physical place, such as a cosy room or a garden, but also an inner state that is achieved through meditation or visualisation. A Sacred Space serves as a retreat where highly sensitive people can recover from the sensory overload of the outside world and recharge their energy reserves. The design of a safe space should meet individual needs and preferences and promote an atmosphere of peace and relaxation. Many highly sensitive people create a safe place to relax in this way.

Comparison with psychological theories

High sensitivity and introversion

Although high sensitivity and introversion occur together, they are not the same thing. Introversion describes a preference for quiet environments and a tendency to gain energy from being alone, while high sensitivity describes an increased sensitivity to stimuli. Many highly sensitive people are also introverted, as they become overstimulated more quickly due to the intense stimulus processing and have a greater need to withdraw. However, it should be noted that not all introverts are highly sensitive and vice versa. However, the combination of both personality traits can lead to particular challenges and strengths, especially in social situations.

Cognitive load theory in the context of high sensitivity

Cognitive Load Theory states that the human brain has a limited capacity to process information. In the context of high sensitivity, this means that highly sensitive people reach their cognitive limits more quickly, as they perceive stimuli more intensely and process them more deeply, which makes them highly sensitive people. Overstimulation leads to an increased cognitive load, which results in exhaustion, stress and concentration difficulties. By reducing their cognitive load, e.g. by avoiding overstimulating environments or using relaxation techniques, highly sensitive people improve their performance and well-being. The application of the theory explains the increased perception.

Behavioural genetic influences on high sensitivity

Research suggests that high sensitivity is partly genetic. Studies have shown that certain genes associated with stimulus processing and emotional response are more common in highly sensitive people. however, emphasise that high sensitivity is not exclusively genetically determined, but is also influenced by environmental factors. The interaction between genetic predisposition and environmental influences characterises the expression of high sensitivity as a personality trait. Knowledge of the genetic basis can help to deepen understanding of high sensitivity and promote acceptance. Highly sensitive people have family traits in common.

Evidence-based forms of therapy for coping with exhaustion for highly sensitive people

Cognitive behavioural therapy

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can be a valuable support for highly sensitive people in coping with exhaustion. CBT focuses on identifying and changing negative thought patterns and behaviours that contribute to exhaustion. Highly sensitive people learn to be more aware of their reactions to external stimuli and stressors and to develop healthier coping strategies. CBT also strengthens self-esteem and the ability to care for oneself. Many highly sensitive people benefit from a structured approach to their thoughts and behaviour. Reducing negative thoughts reduces exhaustion.

·         Questioning catastrophic thoughts

·         Gradual exposure to social situations

·         Development of realistic expectations

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) is another evidence-based method that is particularly suitable for highly sensitive people who suffer from intense mood swings and emotional overstimulation. DBT combines elements of CBT with mindfulness techniques and aims to improve emotion regulation, stress tolerance and interpersonal skills. Highly sensitive people learn to better understand and accept their emotions without being overwhelmed by them. DBT helps to set healthy boundaries and deal more effectively with social interactions. DBT promotes self-efficacy in highly sensitive people and supports them in using their sensitivity as a strength.

·         DEAR MAN technique for clear communication

·         Mindfulness exercises to stay with yourself

·         Emotion regulation skills

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) for energy guardians

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) is a mindfulness-based programme that helps highly sensitive people to reduce stress and regain their inner balance. MBSR combines meditation, body awareness and mindful movement to focus attention on the present moment and change reactions to stressors. Highly sensitive people learn to observe their thoughts and emotions without judgement and develop a greater acceptance of their experiences. MBSR also improves the ability for self-care and supports highly sensitive people to better perceive and fulfil their needs. Through mindfulness, highly sensitive people learn to better regulate their stimuli and reduce exhaustion.

·         Body scan and breathing exercises

·         Develop self-compassion

·         Reduce stress reactions

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) offers highly sensitive people an effective approach to dealing with exhaustion and excessive demands. The focus is on promoting psychological flexibility: instead of trying to fight thoughts and feelings, those affected learn to be mindful of them and at the same time make decisions based on their own values.

ACT is particularly useful for highly sensitive people because it takes away the pressure of having to function "normally". Instead of seeing withdrawal as a weakness, it is understood as conscious self-care, as long as it is in line with personal values. ACT supports those affected in actively shaping their lives - not despite their sensitivity, but with it. In this way, withdrawal and social encounters are brought into a balanced relationship that saves energy and at the same time conveys meaning.

·         Use your own values as a guide

·         Shape withdrawal not out of fear, but out of self-care

·         Strengthen psychological flexibility

The contemporary relevance of high sensitivity

Setting boundaries in a networked world

In an increasingly networked and stimulus-flooded world, setting boundaries is of crucial importance for highly sensitive people. The constant availability of information and social interactions overloads and exhausts the nervous system. Highly sensitive people must learn to recognise their needs and set healthy boundaries to protect themselves from sensory overload. This means consciously planning times for retreat and relaxation, limiting social media or learning to say "no" when they feel overwhelmed. Clear communication helps highly sensitive people to maintain their boundaries and avoid sensory overload.

Support for highly sensitive people

Support from family, friends or professional counsellors is very important for highly sensitive people. A supportive network helps to utilise sensitivity as a strength and lead a fulfilled life. Many highly sensitive people find support in self-help groups or online forums. There they can exchange ideas with other highly sensitive people and feel understood and accepted. Professional counselling - there is no therapy for personality traits - helps highly sensitive people to better understand their strengths and challenges and to develop individual strategies for self-care. It is important that highly sensitive people accept their high sensitivity as part of their personality.

Accepting your high sensitivity as part of your personality is an important step towards self-acceptance and well-being. Many highly sensitive people have had negative experiences in the past because they felt "different" or were misunderstood. By accepting and appreciating their sensitivity, they can better utilise their strengths and overcome their challenges. Accepting their high sensitivity enables highly sensitive people to lead an authentic and fulfilling life in which they contribute their unique abilities and perspectives. Highly sensitive people can be proud of their empathy, creativity and profound perception.

Conclusion: psychology instead of spirituality

Edgar Cayce's mysticism transforms guilt into self-respect: those who avoid visitors are not seen as antisocial, but as guardians of an energy. In psychological terms, it describes high sensitivity, cognitive stress and the legitimate need for retreat.

Spirituality provides comfort and identity, while psychology offers options for action. Both together allow you to take your own limits seriously - without shame, without justification.

If you don't like visitors, that doesn't speak against your social skills or your humanity. It means that your nervous system is setting clear boundaries to protect your well-being. These boundaries deserve respect - from yourself and from others.

All right. I'm developing a blog-friendly self-test on high sensitivity based on Elaine Aron's research, reduced to about 10 questions suitable for everyday use with subsequent evaluation, so that readers can better assess their own sensitivity type. I'll get back to you shortly with the draft.

Self-test: Are you highly sensitive?

High sensitivity is not a medical condition, but a personality trait. Some people react more sensitively to stimuli, process impressions more intensively and therefore need to withdraw more. You can use this short self-test to check whether you recognise yourself in this.

Please answer the following questions with "Yes" or "No":

1.       Do you feel quickly overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights or strong odours?

2.       Do you need peace and quiet and time alone after an eventful day?

3.       Are you particularly moved by art, music or nature?

4.       Do you avoid films, news or scenes that are very violent or sad because they are too upsetting for you?

5.       Are you easily startled by sudden noises or unexpected situations?

6.       Do time pressure or multitasking quickly put you under stress?

7.       Do you often take on the mood of others without meaning to?

8.       Do you often notice details in your surroundings that others don't notice?

9.       Do you have a rich inner life with intense dreams, imagination or feelings?

10.   Do you react strongly to physical conditions such as hunger, tiredness or caffeine?

Evaluation

Above 5 "Yes": You are probably highly sensitive. This means that your nervous system processes stimuli particularly deeply. Withdrawing, taking breaks and being mindful of your surroundings are particularly important to you.

3-4 "Yes": You may have individual characteristics of high sensitivity, even if they are not very pronounced. Observe the areas in which you are particularly sensitive.

0-2 "Yes": You are probably not highly sensitive. Sensory overload is rarely an issue for you.

Recommendation

High sensitivity brings challenges, but also particular strengths: empathy, creativity, detailed perception. If you recognise yourself in many statements, don't see your sensitivity as a weakness, but as a resource. Make a conscious effort to take breaks, organise your environment in a way that is good for you and communicate openly about your needs.

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