Dirk Stemper

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Be a lady they said

“Be a Lady They Said” Be a lady they said. Your skirt is too short. Your shirt is too low. Your pants are too tight. Don’t show so much skin. Don’t show your thighs. Don’t show your breasts. Don’t show your midriff. Don’t show your cleavage. Don’t show your underwear. Don’t show your shoulders. Cover …

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Getting through lockdown emotions – it is okay not to be okay.

Getting through lockdown emotions – it is okay not to be okay. The lockdown was extended until March 7 and will be likely extended further until April or May. With its extended restrictions, it is the toughest lockdown so far. While the same time last year we felt hope, everything would be over by summer, …

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Borderline disorder – parent’s guide

Borderline disorder – parent’s guide Feeling like giving up, for being hated one day and loved without limits the next, is what parents usually account about their children with borderline traits. For families dealing with a Borderline disorder – diagnosis, this feeling is all too familiar. The constant waves of intense feeling and acts can …

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Mentalisation

Mentalisation – Definition

Mentalisation – Definition Mentalisation – Definition = the ability to make sense of our own actions and communication, als well as those of others, in tems of intentions, wishes, desires and feelings. This ability is important in enabling us to regulate our emotions and impulses and in developing fulfilling, meaningful relationships. Mentalisation Base Therapy (MBT) is a psychotherapy to improve this ability. Who …

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Gambling addiction – relationships

Gambling addiction – relationships Gambling addiction – relationships Gambling addiction often creates considerable trouble in personal relationships, particularly through damaged trust, mainly due to the contradictory behaviour in phases of active gambling. Untruths are meant to hide gambling or provide money for gambling, or to put moral pressure on relatives. The outward self-confident demeanour, however, …

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Gambling addiction – dealing with money

Gambling addiction – dealing with money Gambling addiction – dealing with money Money gives gambling its fascination. Games without money offer little excitement. At the same time, money is associated with dreams of wealth and power and a carefree life. Getting the basics of everyday life like food, clothing and housing requires money. Since, on …

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