Dirk Stemper

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Dealing with fears or loss of control

Bilateral stimulation with “butterfly embrace” and “reorientation in the present” against overwhelming anxiety Anxiety: butterfly hug (BLS) Despite your fear, try it: sit back comfortably, close your eyes and imagine a situation in which you feel completely comfortable and content. That can be an everyday or holiday situation, or even a fantasy situation. Feel this …

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Confluence & Conflict

Many people seem to regard harmony and peace as fundamental values, especially in their relationships. And sometimes cultures endorse a particularly low-conflict or conflict-averse interaction. Yet, it is precisely the argument, the conflict, and possibly even the tangible dispute that enables us to grow and feel as “we” ourselves. Now that doesn’t mean we have to fight …

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Breast cancer – What happens in the brain with a cancer diagnosis?

Insights from trauma therapy help us understand what goes on in our brain when we receive a cancer diagnosis. The inner and outer images perceived in a particular situation, the noises, the smells, the body sensations are initially stored on a “primitive” level in the so-called limbic system. The amygdala (almond kernel), in particular, is …

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Toxic relationships

Toxic relationships – definition A toxic relationship is a relationship characterised by behaviours on the part of a toxic partner damaging to their partner, either emotionally, physically or both. While a healthy relationship contributes to our self-esteem and emotional energy, a toxic relationship damages self-esteem and drains energy. Even a good relationship may have its …

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Testosterone stress

Testosterone – things you should know about it Testosterone builds muscle and makes you more masculine – at least most of the time. It is also true that testosterone, especially testosterone deficiency, is often misunderstood. Testosterone and stress Actually, testosterone is not essential when you are under stress. We need the stress hormone cortisol for …

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Emotional triggers

Understand your emotional triggers – and how to deal with them The world can be great and beautiful, but it can also be evil and scary. Some have to endure hardships or deal with traumatic experiences. Such past experiences can affect the way we respond to events in the present. Then emotional triggers can cause …

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Childhood trauma, and how it affects health across a lifetime

Since the Covid-19 pandemic at the latest, no parent will have difficulty imagining that childhood trauma is affecting our emotional and behavioural development. The term childhood trauma summarizes: child abuse, sexual abuse of children, severe neglect, war experiences, separation / divorce of parents and other family / social stress factors. Trauma is a serious psychological …

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Dare more happiness instead of more career

Dare more happiness instead of more career: Seneca Lucius Annaeus Seneca (around 1-65 AD) was a Roman knight’s son in what is now Córdoba. He was one of the richest and most powerful men of his time. Among other things, he was the principal educator and advisor to the future Emperor Nero. His actions as a politician …

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